Facing the wrong way

I was having one of those 'wobbly' moments recently when I start to think I'm not good enough as a wife or mother.....yes, life coaches sometimes get those too!

My husband was reassuring me that everything was fine and reminding me of all the great things I do with and for him and the children. Still down in the dumps, I replied "Yes, but I can't see that."

Quick as a flash he said: "It's not surprising you can't see it for yourself - your eyes are facing the wrong way."

How true is that! It can be so easy to see things for other people - to recognise their abilities, the things they're good at, what to change in order to improve things, and so on. Yet so much harder to do the same for ourselves.

Most of my clients come to me for coaching because they recognise things aren't right, but don't know what to do or how to do it on their own. And they need someone else to recognise and remind them of their capabilities before they can move forwards.

It's even true that many times clients do know, deep down, what they need to do and how to do it. Yet until someone who can be objective and non-judgemental helps them dig into their own inner wisdom, they're stuck.

Coaching is about being the client's eyes, or maybe mirror, so they can clearly and confidently see the way forward, and then act on that new knowledge.

So next time you find yourself diminishing yourself and what you do, find someone who can help you clearly see the way forward. You never know what heights it might take you to.

Meantime, I'm off to continue being a more than good enough wife and mother - and Life Coach!