Mirror, mirror on the wall...
OK, so we can't all be Keira Knightley or Brad Pitt (I wish!) but we all do have to look in the mirror from time to time. I wonder if we like what we see?
And it's not just about external attractiveness, is it? I guess it must be wonderful to have the face of an angel (or whatever) but what's underneath is arguably much more important in the attractiveness stakes.
But do we see that when we look in the mirror? Or do we tend to just see a care-worn, or lined face staring back at ourselves?
How we see ourselves depends to a great extent, not on our external beauty, but on the messages we give ourselves. Do we talk ourselves up or down?
One life coach I know told me how when he gets up each morning, he faces himself in the mirror and says to his reflection: "I love you". How fabulous is that? And given he's cuddly and will hardly make the cover of Vogue (or any other glossy, for that matter), this is about speaking from the heart.
I don't know if he believes what he says to himself - actually I hope he does, because he IS a lovely person. It doesn't really matter. The point is, he's giving himself daily messages that will contradict any tendency to do himself down. The negative is replaced by something positive and powerful. If he doesn't already, he will, in time, re-programme his mind to believe in himself and in his loving and lovable nature.
When a new client started recently, I was explaining to them how one of my jobs as a coach was to 'hold up a mirror' in front of them, so they could get to know the wonderful person that they already are. She's already discovering the truth of this - and is starting to not only get to know and understand herself better, but to actually like what she sees.
I hope that soon she'll be able to look in the mirror and say that she loves herself or that she's fabulous. I'm sure she will.
So how about you? What will you say next time you see yourself in the mirror?
And it's not just about external attractiveness, is it? I guess it must be wonderful to have the face of an angel (or whatever) but what's underneath is arguably much more important in the attractiveness stakes.
But do we see that when we look in the mirror? Or do we tend to just see a care-worn, or lined face staring back at ourselves?
How we see ourselves depends to a great extent, not on our external beauty, but on the messages we give ourselves. Do we talk ourselves up or down?
One life coach I know told me how when he gets up each morning, he faces himself in the mirror and says to his reflection: "I love you". How fabulous is that? And given he's cuddly and will hardly make the cover of Vogue (or any other glossy, for that matter), this is about speaking from the heart.
I don't know if he believes what he says to himself - actually I hope he does, because he IS a lovely person. It doesn't really matter. The point is, he's giving himself daily messages that will contradict any tendency to do himself down. The negative is replaced by something positive and powerful. If he doesn't already, he will, in time, re-programme his mind to believe in himself and in his loving and lovable nature.
When a new client started recently, I was explaining to them how one of my jobs as a coach was to 'hold up a mirror' in front of them, so they could get to know the wonderful person that they already are. She's already discovering the truth of this - and is starting to not only get to know and understand herself better, but to actually like what she sees.
I hope that soon she'll be able to look in the mirror and say that she loves herself or that she's fabulous. I'm sure she will.
So how about you? What will you say next time you see yourself in the mirror?
posted by Elizabeth Juffs at 1:28 PM
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