A problem shared
The saying "A problem shared is a problem halved" has a lot of truth in it.
I was reminded of that at the weekend. I was attending a conference on NLP (neuro linguistic programming) and was sharing with a fellow coach my plans for my coaching practice. This was something I'd been thinking about for a while and had felt 'stuck' in terms of how best to move forward. Having shared my frustrations with her, she gave me some fascinating and practical advice on possible ways forward.
I was reminded again of the power of sharing challenges with others when I had a meeting with my coach supervisor earlier this week. Coaching supervision is a great way of sharing, confidentially, issues that come up during coaching sessions, and gaining new perspectives and insights from another professional coach. She helped me to see where I was taking on responsibility for a client's results rather than allowing that client to own the responsibility himself.
What great learning I've had this week - yet without the support of others, that learning may never have happened. My colleagues enabled me to see things that I had been unable to see on my own, and to solve problems that I'd been struggling with.
I guess that's why coaching is so effective. If you can solve all your problems and challenges on your own, you have no need of a coach. So often, though, we can get stuck and feel unable to see a way forward. Clients can gain new insights and a sounding board from their work with their coach. I sometimes refer to what I do as 'holding up a mirror so you can see yourself more clearly'. The fact that your challenges and problems are shared can enable you to cut through the fog and resolve things at last.
Next time you're feeling stuck, reach out and share it with someone - and see whether your problem is halved as a result.
I was reminded of that at the weekend. I was attending a conference on NLP (neuro linguistic programming) and was sharing with a fellow coach my plans for my coaching practice. This was something I'd been thinking about for a while and had felt 'stuck' in terms of how best to move forward. Having shared my frustrations with her, she gave me some fascinating and practical advice on possible ways forward.
I was reminded again of the power of sharing challenges with others when I had a meeting with my coach supervisor earlier this week. Coaching supervision is a great way of sharing, confidentially, issues that come up during coaching sessions, and gaining new perspectives and insights from another professional coach. She helped me to see where I was taking on responsibility for a client's results rather than allowing that client to own the responsibility himself.
What great learning I've had this week - yet without the support of others, that learning may never have happened. My colleagues enabled me to see things that I had been unable to see on my own, and to solve problems that I'd been struggling with.
I guess that's why coaching is so effective. If you can solve all your problems and challenges on your own, you have no need of a coach. So often, though, we can get stuck and feel unable to see a way forward. Clients can gain new insights and a sounding board from their work with their coach. I sometimes refer to what I do as 'holding up a mirror so you can see yourself more clearly'. The fact that your challenges and problems are shared can enable you to cut through the fog and resolve things at last.
Next time you're feeling stuck, reach out and share it with someone - and see whether your problem is halved as a result.
posted by Elizabeth Juffs at 1:44 PM
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