Yet, in between the moments of darkness, there has been much to find joy in. The coming of Spring. Blue skies. Gardens filling with life and colour. Even messages of warmth, and fond memories from people that knew my father. And flowers. Lots of flowers.
Tomorrow is International Day of Happiness. It’s also my birthday. How fabulous is that? To combine a birthday with a day to celebrate happiness! Even in the midst of grief, it is possible to find the positive and the joy.
Yet sometimes we humans seem hard-wired to only notice the negative or the difficult. We home in on the things that have happened to us that are unfair. We notice the mistakes we’ve made. We fear things that might go wrong even when we cannot know that they will.
Look a bit closer, and usually there’s another story. We start to see the things that have gone well. The ways in which we have found pleasure. The bright future that awaits us, if we change our approach or attitude.
It’s a funny thing. This world is full of pain, grief, conflict and suffering. It’s also full of positivity, happiness, pleasure and joy.
Like an optical illusion, it just depends which way you look at it.
Which way do you choose?