We all do it, don’t we? There are times when we all feel that nothing’s going right for us.
My daughter was in one of those moods this morning…….
I’d forgotten to kiss her on saying ‘Good Morning’ (I hadn’t, actually, just she hadn’t noticed!), then her brother said something she didn’t like, then there wasn’t the right breakfast cereal on the shelf, and so on, and so on….
It’s interesting how easy it is to just spiral downwards into a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom and gloom. There are times when things don’t go as we’d wish (sometimes far from it). Yet two different people can make two completely different responses to the same circumstances.
Imagine this. One person has a fantastic weekend get-together with friends, eating nice food, enjoying nice weather, good company and great conversation, not to mention lots of laughs. On the Sunday that same person has an argument with their flatmate, where things turn a bit nasty, and things are said that both regret afterwards. When that person arrives at work the next day, a colleague asks if they’ve had a good weekend. They respond that, no, it was awful, they had a huge fall-out with their flatmate, and they wonder whether they wouldn’t be better off just staying at work rather than having weekends. Their whole world (and their whole weekend) is tinged with grey.
Now imagine this second scenario. Another person has a fantastic weekend get-together with friends, enjoying nice weather, etc etc (you get the drift). They too have an argument with their flatmate on the Sunday, and things are said that they both regret. When she arrives at work on the Monday and is asked if she’s had a good weekend, she says “yes, great”, and proceeds to tell her colleague all about the fabulous get-together. She then mentions briefly about the argument, and finishes by saying “so I’m off to buy some flowers this lunchtime as a peace offering. I’m not going to let that kind of thing ruin our weekend.”
Same scenario. Two different interpretations.
It’s about how we perceive things and whether we let them get us down. Yes, there are really dreadful things that happen in life, and it’s normal and right to feel sad or angry about them. But there are also some fantastic things that happen in life. We can choose which to focus our attention on. Spending time looking at the ‘up’ side will ensure we feel uplifted, whereas focussing on the doom and gloom tends only to lead to further doom and gloom.
So, I’m off to collect my daughter from school wearing my best smile to greet her. Perhaps she will be focusing on the good bits of her day by then. Let’s hope so!