I Don’t Want to Spend My Life Doing This

don't want to spend my life doing this“I don’t want to spend my life doing this, but what else can I do?”

That’s a question I often hear asked.

It seems that many of us are looking for greater fulfilment; yearning to feel our life is worthwhile and in line with who we are and our values.  Perhaps away from a high-pressured, target-driven culture or a never-ending race to earn more.

But how do we go about it? And how do we find the confidence to go out and create that life?

I’m in the middle of reading a book called Igikai – The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life.  It’s all about finding your reason for being, your purpose, your reason to jump out of bed each morning.

This is similar to the work I do with many clients.  I don’t help them find a job.  That bit is relatively easy (when we know what we’re looking for) and isn’t the work of coaching.

I help them work out who they are, what their strengths and interests are, and how that fits with the rest of their life. In essence, it’s about finding out what makes them ‘tick’ – and then building the confidence and courage to go out and make that happen.

Interestingly, it’s not always our career we need to change.  It’s how we deal with our work, and what we do or don’t do in the rest of our life.  That’s the work of coaching too.

Ikigai or Finding the Life You’ll LoveIkigai - finding a life you'll love

Many of us seem to put up with ‘good enough’ in our lives.

How would it be to live the life, and do the work, that means you are fulfilling your passion?

Yes, there are some aspects of our lives that we cannot change.  But what about those we can change?

How about working out what you love to do and be, what you are good at, and then checking that with what the world needs and what you can be paid for?

This means we are looking at our lives ‘in the round’. What we love may include our hobbies, our families, our personal time.  It means making decisions based on our lives as a whole, not just based around work or money, so we find a real fit with who we are and what matters. So we find fulfilment.

How would your life be, if it was created by you, and represented you at your best?

My guess is you’d no longer be saying: “I don’t want to spend my life doing this”.  Instead, you might feel: “I have come home to who I truly am.”

Have fun creating the life you’ll love.  Let me know if you want any support in discovering what it might be.

You might also want to read my article called Finding Work You’ll Love.

Next time, I’ll be focusing on how to find the confidence and courage to make the life you’ll love a reality.

 

2 Responses to I Don’t Want to Spend My Life Doing This

  1. Robin Batchford October 3, 2019 at 3:34 pm #

    Hi Elizabeth,

    Well…..I have just done that 🙂 I have just completed my first module on a PGCert in Personal and Business Coaching and today I had my first client. I was so nervous to be doing something that is way outside my comfort zone of the last 34 years (I.T. Director) but in parallel to your article, runs true to my values and who I am.

    The session was a success and it has simply stoked the fire to learn more and do more.

    Great article Elizabeth. Keep on motivating.

    • Elizabeth Juffs October 4, 2019 at 7:26 am #

      That’s fabulous news, Robin! I am so pleased for you. Congratulations on your first client! If you enjoy the coaching as much as I have over the least 15 years, you will have a ball. Enjoy making a difference to those you coach and being true to you. Liz

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