Letting Go

It’s Autumn. The leaves are turning brilliant colours of scarlet, amber, copper and gold. A time of letting go.

I wonder what Autumn means to us, and the things we may need to let go of? It might be as simple as a book or an old jumper that’s outlived its usefulness. Or it might be much deeper for you – a relationship, an anger or hurt or bitterness, a tendency to say ‘yes’ to everything, or a sense that happiness is over there and never here.

What do you need to let go of? Perhaps there’s something you’re hanging onto that is stopping you moving forward positively?

We all tend to hang onto things that are no longer helping us.  I call this ‘past its sell by date’ thinking.

Take a moment now to reflect on whether you are hanging onto something that’s past its sell by date for you. If you are, then what can you do about this? What would be your first, small step to letting go?

I have a client who realised she had a relationship in her life that was no longer fulfilling her. If she was honest with herself, it had reached its sell by date a long time ago.  But hanging onto it felt the less scary path to take.  Sometimes its easier to hang onto things, to keep things as they are, even when that means discomfort. Like that old jumper, it’s easier to keep wearing it, even when it’s getting a bit moth-eaten and no longer fits well, than to get rid and go and find another.

When you recognise you have something in your life that’s holding you back, doing something about it can be liberating and joyous (and yes, at times, painful too).

My client courageously chose to move on from the relationship that was stopping her moving forwards. It was initially painful, and scary. But she’s now ready to embrace life with a new freshness and vigour. She’s made the space to allow new, more positive relationships in.

What difference might letting go have for you?

Top tips for letting go:

  1. Identify what it is you are holding onto that is preventing you moving forward positively
  2. Decide what you’d do about it if everything were possible (and you had all the courage you need)
  3. Take the first step today
  4. Enjoy the sense of success and moving on

As ever, let me know how you get on – I’d love to hear!

2 Responses to Letting Go

  1. Chris Gray October 4, 2017 at 5:59 pm #

    Hi Liz. Thanks for this. I’m attending a Pre-Retirement Course this week prior to retirement in August 2018. It’s started me thinking about all the stuff I will need to let go of, including work and responsibility. I find the thought of retirement a bit frightening in some ways, but as you say there is plenty of freedom to look forward to! And I’m determined to view it positively!

    • Liz October 5, 2017 at 8:42 am #

      Pre-retirement – wow! How amazing (you can’t possibly have reached that stage!) and how exciting too, Chris. Hope you find the course good, and the letting go mostly a positive experience. I’m rooting for you!

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