How to Sabotage Your Confidence and Personal Success – and what to do about it!

brilliant youI wonder how you sabotage your confidence or personal success?

It’s usually habits we’ve developed over years which get in our way.

Do you, for instance, tell yourself:

  • I can’t do that
  • I’ll fail – and I can’t allow myself to fail
  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not worthy
  • They’ll find me out

What are you doing, thinking, saying or believing that’s getting in your way and keeping you small?

What are you not doing, or avoiding, that’s standing in the way of your own confidence and success?

These tend to be well-worn ways of being or thinking, that keep you from reaching your potential so you never feel to be fully living your life. All these ways of thinking create neural pathways in your brain, so it’s easy to keep doing them. Like following a well-worn path.

What if you created a new path? One that took you to new, exciting places that meant you were truly living your life and no longer holding yourself back?

Sounds too good to be true?

Well it isn’t.  You can do this.

Our brains are elastic – a muscle that responds to use.  You can train your brain to create new neural pathways that work better for you.  You can literally re-wire your brain from old, limiting thoughts, habits and approaches to new ones that free you up and allow you to be your best, most confident self.

Here’s how:

Like that old, well-worn path, you can decide which of your thoughts and approaches are no longer working for you.  You can choose instead the thoughts and approaches that will work better for you and help you be the best you can be.

It’s that simple, but not necessarily easy.

Like the well-worn path that you walk almost with your eyes shut, it’s easier to continue with the same old thoughts and approaches.  However, uncomfortable they feel, they’re familiar.

It’s much harder to forge a new path through the woods.  You have to decide what you want to change, where you want to go, push through the undergrowth, fight off the brambles along your way. It requires you to stick with it rather than give up and return to the familiar path.  Yet by choosing to create a new path, new vistas and possibilities open up and your life can be richer for it.  You’re no longer constrained by your original path and the same, limited views.

You can learn to be happier, more positive and confident.

You can dump old messages you give yourself that hold you back.

You can choose new, empowering messages, such as:

  • I can do this
  • It doesn’t matter if it goes wrong – it’s not failure, it’s an opportunity to learn so I can do it better next time
  • I am good enough to give this a go

Just as walking a new route through the woods gradually creates a new path, the more you think these new thoughts and try new things, the easier it becomes. Stick with it, and you will create new neural pathways in your brain, so your new habits eventually feel natural and easy.

Then instead of sabotaging yourself, you are in control and empowered to be your best. And isn’t that what you’re meant to be?

If you want an independent professional to accompany and support you on your journey to personal and professional success, get in touch. I’d love to hear from you!

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