Your Gift

giftGifts sometimes come in strange packages.

He could have arrived to pomp, surrounded by opulence and servants. But he arrived in a stable, surrounded by animals.

I had clinical depression many years ago.  Tough for me. Possibly even tougher for my parents and family, who could do little to ease my suffering. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Yet that depression was maybe one of the best things that happened to me. It gave me strength. It meant I knew I could get through even the deepest challenges.  It gives me empathy and understanding when working with others. Quite probably it makes me a better coach.

I wonder what package your gifts have arrived in?

Some people I work with have suffered significant challenges – a redundancy, perhaps, losing a loved one, professional or personal relationship difficulties, bullying, a confidence knock, career insecurity or transition, a health wake-up call. Most, if not all, find that this prompts them to make changes. Positive changes to their work or personal life, which result in huge personal growth. And the difference it makes to them, and often those close to them, is profound.

It might not have looked much like a gift at the time. When redundancy was looming, when struggling with a bullying boss, when facing medical challenges or relationship difficulties or loss. But a gift it may certainly be when it prompts you to make a change to a better place within yourself and with your life.

Sometimes we have to be forced into a pretty dark place before we finally realise we need to make changes, to realise we do have power and responsibility over our lives, and can use that power and responsibility to create better outcomes for ourselves.

The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing.  Michael Gerber

It’s been discovered that what happens in our life is only 10% down to external factors and a whopping 90% down to our own response or approach to life. (Sonja Lyubomirsky)

If, having overcome the pain, we use our difficulties and challenges to respond in a way that moves us forward positively, with greater compassion and strength, how meaningful could our lives become?

If we respond to every setback as a gift, to help us come closer to reaching our full potential, how would that be?

There is a giant asleep within every man. When the giant awakes, miracles happen.
Frederick Faust

Which, come to think of it, might just be the gift that little baby in the stable gave to us.

2 Responses to Your Gift

  1. Rachel Holmes December 15, 2017 at 6:30 am #

    Great piece, Liz. This really spoke to me. I think having worked with you I now embrace the gifts I’m given and use them positively. Thank you as ever for ‘being there’. I’m pleased to say I’m in a great space in spite of life’s many challenges. Thank you again for the support and encouragement you continue to offer by your posts.

    • Elizabeth Juffs January 8, 2018 at 10:01 am #

      Fabulous Rachel! Glad the post ‘hit the right spot’. I’m so impressed with what you’re achieving….and hope you are too!

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